Do you consider yourself a happy person, or do you find your mind filled with questions like "When I get to this point in my life, then I will be happy," or "If only I would have done ( fill in the blank) then I would be happier."
If you find yourself thinking this way, you may have destination disease.
All too often we live our lives in the past, full of regrets or always looking to a future time when we achieve specific goals or reach a place in our career when we can finally be happy.
When our happiness is based on a destination or lack thereof, we place ourselves in a position where we can never be happy until we “arrive.”
Author Shawn Achor in his book "The Happiness Advantage" explains how he spent over a decade researching at Harvard University, on one of the most extensive studies of happiness ever completed.
One of the key findings in his research was that happiness fuels success, not the other way around.
This study shows when we are positive; our brains become more engaged, creative, resilient, and productive at work and in life.
So our level of happiness comes down to how we internalize our external circumstances.
It's the old glass half full or half empty syndrome.
So how do you internalize your external circumstances?
Today you may not have the career you want, but at least you have a job. You might be saying “KC & Jennifer, I don’t even have a job!”. But you have air in your lungs and have another day of life. You have today!
Does this mean we should ignore planning and setting goals? Not at all. We are all for planning and goal setting. It's good to have a big picture outlook, to set goals, to establish budgets and make plans, but if you're always living in the future, you're never really enjoying the present in the way God wants us to.
Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day. We can't change our past, and we can't be sure what the future holds. What you do have is today.
Being cured of destination disease and finding happiness begins by choosing today to be happy.
Here are three things that you can do today to bring happiness into your life:
If you are currently unemployed, you have time on your hands to help others. Helping others not only feeds the soul but could potentially open up doors for you and is scientifically proven to improve our mood.
Living in the moment
You can't turn back the clock or fast-forward time. You have this moment you are in right here, right now.
Take a deep breath and look around you.
Look at your surroundings. Take a sheet of paper and write down the color, tastes, and smells aroudn you. You will find your heart rate slowing and that your stress level decreases.
Who are you going to spend time with today? Be present. Don't dwell on what you need to do tomorrow or what you forgot to do. Give everyone your undivided attention.
Destination disease can get the best of us all. When we are thankful for what we do have, help others, live in the moment and are present in all of our conversations, life moves a little slower and becomes a little happier.
You might just find yourself smiling a little more also!
Question: What can you do today to be cured of destination disease? Leave us comment. We would love to hear from you.